Jose Canseco is an ass and a moron. Dowd writes: A gorgeous, fit guy who sleeps with an overweight, unattractive woman is "throwing himself on a grenade" for the team. A gorgeous, fit girl who sleeps with an overweight, unattractive man is lucky to have found romance in "Sideways" and "Hitch." Yeah but in real life women are less likely to judge a man on what he looks like, and more on what kind of a person he is. So isn't it just art imitating life? Men still seem to be more hung up on looks than women. Or, I should say, a certain kind of man is hung up on looks (the Jose Cansecos of the world). You write: The "Bridget Jones" scenario, where a plain-Jane girl makes a desirable alpha male fall in love with her just the way she is, is media fantasy. Is it? Why? You seem to imply that all guys have the Jose Canseco mentality. I don't believe that for a second.